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January 06, 2010

Perspective


I am learning the importance of keeping things in perspective. When I hear something, I take time to think about it before I make a decision on how I feel about it. I don't jump to conclusions. One of the most interesting eye openers for me during my therapy was that I didn't always see things correctly or understand something as it really was. Part of that was due to the fact that all my life I was disassociated. I would get a glimpse of something that I couldn't understand and I would get a hint of a feeling but I wouldn't understand that either, but for a brief moment every once in awhile things would feel in sync, feel right, feel okay. But it didn't last and I was unable to hold on to it. Whatever IT was. And the funny thing is that I always thought that good sync thing was due to circumstances outside of me. I did not realize at all that it was within my power to be in that good place when I choose as often as I choose for as long as I choose.

Learning to hear things and see things with clarity was a challenge at first. With tools and coaching I have found a way to be in acceptance and harmony that is not only healthy for me mentally but physically too. The frustration level is practically nonexistent now.

The reason I share things like this is another gauge of my new trust in others. Learning to keep things in perspective is a giant step for me in my recovery, and the old me would not have even talked to anyone about it. But I am comfortable speaking openly about some of my self discoveries and new found joy in life, and that's a very good thing.

19 comments:

Eternally Distracted said...

You are comfortable talking about it and we are glad to be hearing it...I'm very glad you are on the road to recovery and that you are able to vent to us blogger people ;0)

Debbie said...

Perspective can be so difficult! I struggle with it, especially in my relationships with certain people.

Julie said...

Your posts always offer wise advice and make me think. I love that. Yes, perspective is the key. I have the tendency to "make mountains out of molehills." I have wasted too much time and energy worrying either about meaningless things or things I can't control. I've gotten much better in the past few years, but the tendency is still there.

I'm so happy for your recovery, too. It is a one day at a time struggle, and you are an inspiration for many people.

Shrinky said...

The best therapy I ever had was to quit London life for this sleepy island. Even then it took me a good two plus years to calm down. Being aggressive was a daily way of life for me, fighting over a parking spot, I ALWAYS won, no contest. I always bit first before anyone could bite me.

Like you say, perspective is all. The only person you can change is yourself, and I am so, so glad I've finally managed to realise that. You sound to have found a good place to be with yourself, if you are anything like me, that must be such a welcome relief (x).

Shadow said...

i need time to form my 'perspective'. instinct is fine as an initial reaction, but to form a firm opinion, i need time to think it through... and as you say, some days its easy, others not.

Brian Miller said...

great post techno...perspective is everything...our eyes usually see what we expect to see or what we want to see...blinding us to perspective beyond our own.

Cheryl said...

A great and inspiring post! Glad you visited my blog, come back soon!

Lou said...

I like that we can continually make changes to our perspective our entire lives. We are not prisoners to the past..or future. I really believe that.

Sunshine said...

very well said.. I am in the same process of learning not to take a decision right away think about it first.. I am so glad you brought up this idea once again in my mind..

Nice Topic.. Happy New year!

gayle said...

A lesson we all can learn!!

Joanna Jenkins said...

That is a VERY good thing!

I admire all the work you are doing in your recovery and appreciate your sharing your story with us.

Keep up the good work.
xo

therapydoc said...

What's cool about trust is that if you aren't too trusting, if you keep a wary defense up but risk a little, it builds on itself. Love the post.

Ronda Laveen said...

Beautiful post, TechnoBabe. How did you come to finally engage in therapy?

Spencer L Casey said...

You sound so F'in healthy! :) Awesome post. Great to read.

Yousei Hime said...

Good, good, good. You are an encouragement to me. If you want a little humor, stop by my blog for some Kitty Tales.

Yousei Hime said...

Technobabe,
We have a few cats that wander on to our property, but most are chased off by our cats or our dogs. Our cats have a door into our garage where (which is attached to our house) where they can come in from the cold. Glad you enjoyed the poems and pictures. Thank you so much for coming by.

jozien said...

Thanks for sharing!
I like that; to realize that is within my power to be in that good place when i choose as often as i choose for as long as i choose.
ahhhh I am choosing now :)

Eternally Distracted said...

I popped back again to say thank you so much for commenting on my posts - you always write lovely things and I very much appreciate it. :))))

Unknown Mami said...

I really need help with perspective. I seem to be lacking it at the moment.