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July 30, 2010

Happy Surprise

The other day I mentioned to my hubby that while I was at the womens shelter we took turns picking out music in the large dining area next to open kitchen area. One evening we were helping with cooking and preparing for the family style evening meal. One of the girls put in a CD and we were sort of dancing in place as we did our food prep.

I was at the counter inside the kitchen making a huge salad with two women helping me. A song came on and I went rubbery and dropped what I was holding and started crying. Actually it turned out to be a cleansing for me because I had been holding back my emotions until that happened.

Hubby and I would play our CDs in the car and we sang together to the songs. Some songs we sang as loud as we could. This was one of them. This song was in a way "our song". We never called it that but we were instantly pulled together when this song played. If we were in different rooms and one of us played this, we ran to be together and sing it together. So this song was so much part of our relationship.

We haven't been singing in the car since summer of 2008. After the shelter I was in a little apartment of my own but would be with hubby almost every day for a few hours. We were each working on our getting healthy and also we were working on our marriage. There was never a time we would let go of the marriage but we were being cautious and working through so many things before we would live together again. We both had issues and for us this was a blessing to have time to face things and become stronger as individuals which then helped the strength of the marriage.

So a few days after I mentioned the song incident hubby reached out to me in a special way. I was sitting at my computer in the living room and from hubby's studio room I listened to his playing his guitar and he was playing his heart out. It was great. When he finished playing guitar, on high volume he played our song. I was concentrating on writing a post but the song reached me immediately and I turned my chair around and as I was getting out of my chair hubby was hurrying to me from the other room. Hubby took me in his arms and we danced in our living room. We both had tears and it was an awesome and loving and joyful dance to "our song". I was exactly where I feel at home, in hubby's arms.

43 comments:

Cinner said...

I think it is beautiful that you have a song and dance. so many struggles along the way to overcome, and look how strong things are . you are both amazing and deserve much happiness. take care.

Opaque said...

This is very besutiful! Wish you both nothing but happiness.

-Don said...

Cool! Great song to have for "your" song. My oldest son and I got to see Hoobastank warm up for Linkin Park in 2004. They rocked!

Every couple should have at least one song that connects them in a way that only they can truly understand and appreciate. Here's to continued health in your life together...

-Don

LL Cool Joe said...

Every couple have that one song or more that brings back certain memories. I think because my taste in music has changed over the years that my songs change too. I can't say there is just one song that is our song, but there are certain songs that bring back memories of certain times together. And that will be 25 years this September.

BLOGitse said...

How beautiful and romantic!

Dave King said...

If music be the food of love, play on... and on... and on!
Blessings.

Mr. Stupid said...

That's so lovely. I have heard "The Reason" before. I liked it's music video a lot. It's great to see that you guys have an 'Our Song'.
Smiles....

Brian Miller said...

that is so beautiful techno...you both are such an inspiration to love...smiles.

jillsy said...

TB...I have goosebumps...even though I have heard this sound many times before, I will now always think of the two of you when I hear it!

jillsy said...

Oops...that was supposed to be "song", not "sound"!

Betty said...

Music can really touch our deepest emotions. This is so cool that you have such a special song and dance together. Love it!

deb said...

I love people who get music like this.
It absolutely can invoke such deep emotions.
good or bad.

for this true love story ~~ very very good

Rock Chef said...

It is amazing what music can do, isn't it?

We have a few special songs, each with their own special meaning or association.

I love that you were able to work through your problems and come out with an amazing relationship - shows true dedication and love.

DJan said...

How lovely. I also have a great husband, but he doesn't sing at all. He does hum one annoying tune under his breath all the time, but now I will think of it as "our song" and appreciate it!

Jeanie said...

What a beautiful expression of the emotion tht music evokes in us. May you and Hubby never stop singing and dancing.

sheri said...

what a touching story! after all that you two had been through i couldn't help but think he had forgotten...looks like that was not the case :) many blessing to you for continued restoration!

Sabi Sunshine said...

beautiful & emotional..It's such romantic way of expressing feelings. Wish you both happy and healthier life.

Love
Sunshine

Casey Freeland said...

You truly never cease to amaze me. What you've gone through and your attitude about it all. Amazing.

Casey

TALON said...

The power of music is amazing - cathartic, healing, connecting. And it definitely can transport us back to a certain place in time. This was beautiful, TechnoBabe.

Kristina P. said...

This was lovely. Marriage is hard work, but worth it.

BTW, I know you sent me a Snuggie pic, but I can't find it! Do you have a copy to send me?

Gary's third pottery blog said...

oh sweetie!

Robynn's Ravings said...

Love this song - it's on my IPod. We've walked some heavy paths, too, and are so glad we stuck it out when it didn't look like we would make it. Healing is a life-long process. Thanks for sharing this and giving us a glimpse into a very special place.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Big sigh! That is perfect song and easy to see why it touches you and James so much.

You two really have a special bond and it's beautiful that you can still dance in each others arms with tears of happiness in your eyes.

Sending hugs to you both. jj

Hilary said...

That's such a tender and romantic gesture. Beautiful

Gappy said...

Your relationship sounds so lovely and committed. I guess that's what you get when you really work on something. Sending so many happy wishes to both of you.

gayle said...

That is so nice that you and your husband have a song and he will dance with you!!

otin said...

I am so glad that things have worked out for you. Did I mention that I can't dance!

The Urban Cowboy said...

This is truly amazing and inspirational.

"I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you"

Sounds like you both share a love that has endured disappointment and failure, only to undergo a metamorphosis, where something much more deeper and powerful would be born.

And how romantic is that...spontaneous singing and dancing together?

heartinsanfrancisco said...

It sounds as if you have been building new triggers together to replace the old, outmoded ones that caused pain. The fact that you both elected to remain together instead of running away to find other people says volumes about your maturity and even more about the love you share.

Blessings on you both. Life is too precious to waste in pain.

Stickup Artist said...

I love that song too! Though now I listened to the words more carefully and with renewed meaning. Your struggles have transformed into a greater love story than most will ever know. Peace.

blueviolet said...

Ok, this story kind of melted me. :)

Maggie said...

I love that song! Hoobastank rocks! You and your hubby warm my little heart up and brightens my day when I read these things cause seriously techno we don't see a lot of this kind of love anymore. :(

My friend and I use to sing that song every single day while driving to school! hahaha

Shadowthorne @ Ramzu Zahini said...

...... I have so many 'our song' with many special people. :)

I envy you and your hubby.

lisleman said...

You introduced a new song to me. Thanks the lyrics hold strong meaning.

Berni said...

That is a lovely story so glad you worked it out together.

Bernie said...

Powerful words my friend. You are an amazing lady who has lived a life of pain and love. Your story is an inspiration for all who hears it. I am so happy that you are in such a beautiful space right now with your hubby. Such a love story.....have a wonderful weekend......:-) Hugs

Ina in Alaska said...

I have always enjoyed that song. I played it and picked up Jeter and Ginger and we danced around the house while it played. xoxo

Robert the Skeptic said...

I guess if my wife and I had a song that was "our song" it would probably be "Dead Skunk in the Middle of the Road" by Louden Wainright III (It's the only song we BOTH know the lyrics).

secret agent woman said...

What a wonderful gesture on our husband's part - sounds like a dance of both healing and celebration.

Just to let you know, I had to change URL's. My avatar links to the new site.

Syd said...

We have those songs that we sing too as well. They are really special. Cool that other people do that. We thought we were the only ones!

Kazzy said...

Wow, I had no idea. Thanks for your honesty. Beautiful!

Long Hollow said...

What a beautiful image I got of the two of you meeting to dance like that! Wishing you both happiness.

Marla said...

Oh Techno ~ This whole story and song made me cry. Happy tears.