October 22, 2010
Some Of The Benefits Of Growing Up
Do you like receiving nice short emails of love and encouragement?
A couple times a month I send emails to my grown kids. They wouldn't usually respond to them. Before I started working on my own recovery I would get hurt feelings that my kids were not taking the time to respond to my emails.
For the past couple years I have been actively working to become a "grown up" and keep my own side of the street clean. As it became more and more natural for me to actually pick up the garbage on my street and not just kick it off the sidewalk, things started changing in my relationship with my kids too.
My older daughter replies to my short emails once in awhile, and the nicest change is that occasionally she writes me a very long, informative, loving email. Then I reply to the things she tells me in the email and she and I email back and forth a few days and then we get busy with our lives until the next long email. It has been a blessing for me to experience the changes within me. I have learned not to react to things and not to live in fear and anger. I realize that I have absolutely no idea what is going on within another person or what their struggles are, so I don't judge or take things personally. I let go of my insecure feelings and remember that I am strong now. I have worked so hard to get to this place.
So many good things happen in life when I put myself in a healthy frame of mind and attitude. By not trying to control the outcome and letting go of the putzy things my heart is open to receive the good things. I welcome them. I am thankful for them.
Posted by CiCi