July 05, 2009

Being Repaired Might Look Temporary

This photo clearly shows that somehow we find a way to fix things so they work, but to the onlooker it is a mess. I found this article at Make:Online.

Just as in my life I have been fixing my codependency and healing my depression and PTSD. This is taking a great amount of work, every day work, honest hard work. Harder than manual labor.

Added to my individual recovery work, I am working on repairing my relationship with my husband. To someone not living inside our earth bodies, it may look like things are not fixed. Our judgment is the only significant opinion. And we don't judge harshly these days. We're pretty easy going.

My hubby is working on his own recovery in codependency. He has been clean and sober for eight years. And he has been living with bipolar disorder all his life, in hospitals for manic episodes twelve times. The most recent hospital stay was last summer, a few months after we moved from California to Nebraska.

Our marriage might look like a jury-rigged fragile temporary fix like the one in this picture. For us, it is stronger and better than it ever was. Last year when hubby was taken to a hospital, I was taken to a homeless shelter, where I stayed for 3 1/2 months. Then I moved to a little apartment and that is still my home. I see hubby almost every day and we are still very married and cook together, clean together, watch movies, wash clothes, all the things we used to do when we lived together. For now, this is the way it is working for us, and we are doing better and better every day, one day at a time.


surjit said...

Welcome to my blog TechnoBabe and thanks for sharing your views. I would be glad to this post on your blog.
God bless.

Causalien said...

Hang in there. Everyone is having a hard time. The light at the end of the tunnel is almost upon us.

On the other hand, I see that you bought a domain name, but is still using blogger. I can help you setup your own wordpress if you want.

TechnoBabe said...

Surjit, thanks for stopping by here. I have a post ready look at it here tomorrow. Many blessings to you too.

Hi Causalien, great to hear from you.
I bought the domain name and if someone goes to the blogspot they are automatically kicked to the domain. Email me if you have other suggestion. I appreciate your words of wisdom, my friend.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Sooner or later, we all must realize that society's convenient "shoulds" have little bearing on our own lives. Only you can know what works for you, and it sounds as if you and your husband have improvised an arrangement that does with the understanding that when (or if) it doesn't any longer, you'll figure out something else.

Your honesty and courage give you a major head start over so many other people!

Thanks for your comments on my photo blog.

Rikkij said...

Glad things are going well. Thanks for stopping by. Journey on ~rick

Joanna Jenkins said...

What an honest and real post. Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you are on the right track. Keep up the good work.