August 27, 2009

Building Love and Commitment

I just read a book titled "Building A Home With My Husband" by Rachel Simon. I enjoyed the book because it actually was about a house renovation. But the thread throughout is the relationship between husband and wife.

Near the end of the story are some quotes that I want to share here.

"So this is commitment, I realized, as we walked up the hill toward our house. Pressing myself to admit my feelings aloud, and how they arose---even when I'm so convinced that he did something wrong that I'm on the verge of running. Of course, commitment requires that the other person must love and respect me enough to want to hear, and I must love and respect him enough to speak words he can hear. But assuming that is the case, then this is commitment: Valuing our unity over my pride, the whole of our us rather than the sum of my righteousness.

.... Love is not just a feeling, and commitment is not just a decision. They, when intertwined, are action. Love and commitment move, and touch, and listen, and speak. They are deeds that sacrifice individual pride. Their goal is not just happiness, but mutual vulnerability."

These words wrapped around my heart and taught it to sing and dance.


Badass Geek said...

Excellent quote. Thanks for sharing that.

Margie said...

The quotes you shared here are absolutely wonderful!
The book sounds great & I shall have to check it out!

Great post...thank you!


cinner said...

Just beautiful and I am loving the photo. Thankyou for your kind words today on my blog. Take care

Shadowthorne said...

??? Is the book saying that love make one VULNERABLE?! Vulnerable to each other? To the rest of Earth's population?

I have to disagree with that book. (Yes, I am always swimming against the tide here).

Ronda Laveen said...

Holy Moley. I should have written that book. I've endured more remodels with my hubby of 30+ years than any woman should ever have to endure. But we've grown used to the process and COMPROMISE. Thanks, I'll check it out.

A Free Man said...

That's lovely. Thanks.

Shadow said...

wow, those quotes are truly wonderful. and so very true!!!

Lou said...

I'm always looking for new book recommendations.

Craver Vii said...

I've been married 21 years so far, and it's thoughts like these from your quotes that keep making my marriage sweeter and stronger as the years go by. Thanks for sharing them.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Today is my 16th wedding anniversary. I'm going to read this to my husband tonight. Thanks for sharing.

otin said...

There is a fine line between being committed, and being COMMITTED! LOL!

I hope I don't really make you sad with my you know what is sad! It is just a jersey way of saying you know whats weird, or you know what drives me crazy!

Fancy said...

An interesting post - a feeling so deep and so profound!

I like it!