Comeraderie and Fun are high on my list of what I want in a relationship.
It is important to me that there is fun in life, and I want it to be more fun than the not so fun stuff. I am realizing how much fun means to me. I don't think that is shallow or self serving. I deal with the not so fun stuff so much better if I have enough of the fun stuff in my life. Yes, I care about other people and have empathy for someone who is having problems of their own. And I wish they could have fun in their life too. Plenty of fun to go around. Fun doesn't have to cost anything, not time or money.